The weight of guilt is paralyzing! I know how it feels. And sometimes, I still sink under the weight of my own guilt. But God! Yes, but God always comes to the rescue with His wisdom that I am so grateful for. If it wasn’t for Him, guilt would have swallowed me whole. I am so grateful for Him in my life. He takes my hand and He shows me and helps me. I am persuaded that He will do that for you too.
God’s Perfect Love
There is a Scripture that has been recited so many times that it becomes just another Scripture. John 3:16 – For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life. I would like to start our journey with the monster called guilt, by looking at this Scripture with fresh eyes. Love has become such a used and abused word, that many suffered because of it. And they developed trust issues. It’s really hard to trust any human being. It would benefit us all if those words were followed up by actions. And yet, even after a human’s actions, it still proves to be false.
Thanks be to God! His love is perfect. And not only did He say He loves us, He showed it by giving the most precious gift that we could ever receive. Jesus laid down His life for us. The cross is an exquisite display of the perfect love that God has for us. And this was done for a reason. ‘that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.
Why would it profit us to look at God’s love when we are strangled by our guilt? Because guilt blinds our eyes. It leads us into thinking that we are worth nothing. That we are better off isolating or even killing ourselves. The weight of guilt is so heavy that it drains the life out of us. It also leads us into thinking that we can’t trust God. A friend of mine called it the Father-wound. I’m so grateful that I can put a label on it.
Trauma
Listen, God loves you! And if the guilt still has its claws on you and you are unable to step into freedom, let us talk about the trauma you went through. Yes, the other reason why you are struggling with mental health issues. This is obviously more serious than a Father-wound. It’s about your trauma.
We never choose what is done to us. No one wants trauma. It is not your fault. You can let go of the guilt. The people who has done this to you are broken. They may have broken you, but you can cling to the love of God. I am persuaded that God is going to put you back together in His time. His timing is always perfect.
Guilt Towards Family
Let’s also capture this monster of guilt and talk about guilt towards your family. I used to have so much guilt towards them, because I saw how it affected them. Again, you may let go of that guilt. Your family is there to support you. It is God’s design for us to support one another and be there for one another. They are learning a valuable lesson. So are you. You are learning to let go and let them love you. And even if your family doesn’t support you, you can know that you are not alone. Many people are dealing with this. More than you can count.
Guilt Towards Your Children
I think the toughest guilt to feel, is towards your children. I am struggling with that one as well. Their so innocent and they don’t deserve to be affected by this. But I have learned that our struggles become our testimonies. They see how you remain faithful to God, even when things get tough. They are also faced with very good news. That God is faithful through the trials.
The Guilt Of Sin
The only guilt you are allowed to have, is the guilt of sin. That is basically the only one. Even then, in 1 John 1:9 it says – If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. Even then, God stays faithful. He gives us a way through it and restores our fellowship with Him. What a wonderful God we serve.
Let go of the guilt my dear friend. You are loved. You are special. You are not alone. Hold fast to what God has promised you and surely, you can get through anything. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” Philippians 4:13.
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